The best spouse relationships have what is know as unconditional love...
Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. The type of love you have for your partner when the romantic hollywood style of love is gone.
Once the romance is gone, (give it a few years, you'll see what I'm talking about) you make the transition to Real Love. This is love you have for your partner dispite the fact they aren't perfect. You know your partner's faults and imperfections, but thats okay... You still love them. Thus, you have unconditional love.
To put it another way. It's the same type of love (without the added benifit of sex) you would have for your parents or your children. Assuming you love your parents and children.
Another example would be the way you love you dog or pets, unconditionally. You love your children unconditionally, right. However, this can be difficult to do especially during the teenage years.
We all go through trials and tribulations, there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives. If your serious about a lasting marriage, you need to put the clutter aside and let your unconditional love come through. Love really does conquer all.
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4/28/09
Relationships Based on Love and Respect
The best spouse relationships are based on love and respect. That goes without saying, doesn’t it? Everyone probably realizes that love and respect are crucial to having a fertile relationship. But beyond love and respect there are a few things that can help spouse relationships.
Think back to when you were first married. If you’re newly married, think back to when you first met and were dating. How did you treat your partner? You probably treated your partner with respect, but also with kindness and thoughtfulness.
Unfortunately, it’s common that the longer we know someone the less kindness we tend to show towards that person. One would think that the opposite holds true. But we start to take the other person for granted and think they’ll always be there, no matter what.
Think of the last time you went to the bank or grocery store and spoke to the cashier. Maybe you exchanged words with a stranger. How was the tone of your voice and your words? You probably sounded like the sweetest person on the planet. That person might have thought “how polite” when you walked away.
Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse at times. When you get angry or you’re unhappy about something think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you’re thinking “probably not” then you’ve started taking advantage of your spouse.
People do it with close friends, parents and children too. If we could record a person’s conversation and play it back to them at a different time, that person might be ashamed of how they sounded. And they probably wouldn’t speak that way to someone they didn’t know very well for fear of hurting their feelings!
Good spouse relationships are kind ones. Everyone gets angry now and then. And yes, everyone says things he or she regrets in an angry and even hateful tone of voice. But you can keep these instances to a minimum by just thinking about whether you’d talk to your postman or your boss that way.
Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in a good marriage. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they’re together, the less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward.
In the beginning when you’re first dating or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprising your spouse once in a while can help make yours one of the better spouse relationships.
Try to keep in mind that marriage isn’t written in stone. There really are other opportunities out there for your spouse. Bring back some of the things you did and said when you were trying to win this person. Be kind and thoughtful as much as you can. Those combined with love and respect will make yours one of the enduring spouse relationships.
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Think back to when you were first married. If you’re newly married, think back to when you first met and were dating. How did you treat your partner? You probably treated your partner with respect, but also with kindness and thoughtfulness.
Unfortunately, it’s common that the longer we know someone the less kindness we tend to show towards that person. One would think that the opposite holds true. But we start to take the other person for granted and think they’ll always be there, no matter what.
Think of the last time you went to the bank or grocery store and spoke to the cashier. Maybe you exchanged words with a stranger. How was the tone of your voice and your words? You probably sounded like the sweetest person on the planet. That person might have thought “how polite” when you walked away.
Now think to the words and the tone of the voice you use with your spouse at times. When you get angry or you’re unhappy about something think about how you sound. Would you ever speak that way to a stranger? If you’re thinking “probably not” then you’ve started taking advantage of your spouse.
People do it with close friends, parents and children too. If we could record a person’s conversation and play it back to them at a different time, that person might be ashamed of how they sounded. And they probably wouldn’t speak that way to someone they didn’t know very well for fear of hurting their feelings!
Good spouse relationships are kind ones. Everyone gets angry now and then. And yes, everyone says things he or she regrets in an angry and even hateful tone of voice. But you can keep these instances to a minimum by just thinking about whether you’d talk to your postman or your boss that way.
Thoughtfulness is also an important factor in a good marriage. People love their spouses, but it seems the longer they’re together, the less they sometimes show it. Your spouse is one person you should make a point of being thoughtful toward.
In the beginning when you’re first dating or first married, you might send (or receive) flowers, cards and little surprises. Generally after people are married for a while, these sorts of things slow down or stop. Remembering to be thoughtful and surprising your spouse once in a while can help make yours one of the better spouse relationships.
Try to keep in mind that marriage isn’t written in stone. There really are other opportunities out there for your spouse. Bring back some of the things you did and said when you were trying to win this person. Be kind and thoughtful as much as you can. Those combined with love and respect will make yours one of the enduring spouse relationships.
==>Relationship Resources<==
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